From the emailbag:
I read this on a dating advice site and I disagree. Some guy has written that he doesn't have trouble getting dates, but he can't get past the first date. She writes back:
In our time-crunched society, it seems that no one wants to waste any time with the Wrong One. If you think about dating in this way, it puts you under so much pressure that it can make it even more difficult to succeed.
Keep these guidelines in mind--they will increase your chances of a great first date: Keep it casual and low-key. Save your extravagant gestures until after you know each other better.
Some of her other tips are good, like "Treat a discussion like a tennis game—you’re exchanging information. Smile, and keep it light and flirtatious, upbeat and positive. You should be talking about half the time." but that first part sure doesn't work for me.
Oh, one thing she said was really true - if I don't want to get romantically involved with the guy, I definitely insist on paying for it.
I think she's off-base on that first one. In our "time-crunched society," I don't want a guy who's ticking off the notches on his belt buckle, and throwing out one-liners in a Starbucks. In fact if a guy asks me for coffee at Starbucks, he's off my list. I expect him to be selective, and if he arrives at me, to take me out somewhere really nice and impress me, which includes being able to handle the "pressure" of an upscale rather formal dinner engagement.
What do you think?
A Leo who's claws are out
Dear Leo:
I agree, that's the perfect way to court a Lioness. Perhaps the only way -- guys, take heed. Leos are the Queens of the Jungle, after all. What they require might overwhelm a Cancer gal, and totally miss the mark with a Pisces gal. And, with the shoe on the other foot, may be totally beyond an Aquarius male to deliver. Everyone gets to go to Starbucks, for the Aquarius - fair is fair.
Go back to that old song, "If her daddy's rich, take her out for a meal. If her daddy's poor, just do what you feel." All Leo gals had a rich dad; because it's all about the royal treatment. Money isn't really what it's about.
A guy should know how to treat different signs and/or what he's getting in to with what signs. He also should know about his own sign and chart, which is uniquely individual. There's a very wise saying: "Never give advice in a crowd." Call me (817-734-1471) or email me (sdunn@susandunn.cc) to set up an appointment for a reading.
I'd love to help you hone your dating skills. I bring couples together and help them stay together.
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