How to get Her Back

As Mars Retograde lurches forward, the mail bag is full of emails about getting the girlfriend back. This is just part of what goes on in Mars Retrograde, but you may find it affecting you.

It isn't as hard as it seems. The main thing between two people is the attraction, and you know that she was once attracted to you.

The method matters a whole lot, and you need to give her (SHOW her) a REASON why she should want to come back to you. This depends upon your astrological sign and hers. You can get some important tips on this from a reading. A Leo woman will probably want to know that you won't insult her again, or wound her pride. The Gemini woman will want reassurance that you really mean it this time, i.e., marriage.

Email for a reading at semiramis.appiamo@hotmail.com. It could be the most important thing in your life.

Good Holiday Advice

Who do you want to be this holiday season?
Rx for Health , Dr. Susan E. Allen
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Several years ago, my husband and I and our college-age children gathered for Thanksgiving dinner around a big table in the home of out-of-state relatives. The details aren't vital, but what is important is that when the four of us left to drive home, we apparently couldn't wait to get in the car and let out a collective and negative "Ahhhhh!"

While the food was great, and we all had more than enough, the mood during the day had been very different from what we would have hoped for on this day of gratitude and thanks. We slipped into disappointment, negativity, even judgment.

We criticized one cousin for talking about himself the whole time, expressed anger at distasteful comments, and generally agreed that this was not a pleasant time for us.

I will always remember that Thanksgiving, and in the years since then, I have not been proud of my own reactions to it. In fact, some of those cousins, aunts and uncles present may well have been just as critical of our ways. This is not unusual among families. It doesn't take a professional to realize the heightened emotional energy that many of us feel at various family gatherings, including weddings, summer vacations, Thanksgiving, Christmas and Hanukkah. There is arguably nothing more predictable in the field of mental health than the stresses and emotional upheaval that arise every November and December.

As we get older, there are even more new challenges during the holidays. Aging parents. Parents or siblings who have died. New "significant others" in the lives of sons and daughters. Children who have grown and moved away and are not able to be at home for the holidays. Perhaps the pain of divorce or the energy of a newly blended family.

We are challenged over and over again to face difficult relationships along with the easier ones. We are challenged to engage with people who bring out the less likable parts of ourselves as well as those who bring out the best in us. We are challenged to seek reconciliation and acceptance, as well as to feel gratitude.

So, who do you want to be in your family this holiday season? Here are four steps to consider as you anticipate your holiday gatherings:

* Try to have realistic expectations. Marsha Linehan, a professor of psychology at the University of Washington, encourages "making friends with reality." Have realistic expectations of what can change and what cannot. This might include learning to live with hurt or pain, and even allowing it to be the catalyst for a transformation of some kind. Approaching a family event this way will likely lead to less disappointment and some nice surprises.

* Use your emotional intelligence. Notice your feelings and manage them in healthy ways. Our emotions give us good information about ourselves, but it's best not to act on all of them. Notice other people's emotions, too. Can you understand why they might feel the way they do? Can you experience both detachment and empathy in your relationships?

* Be values-based. What are your most important values? How are you acting on them or honoring them in your interactions and behaviors? As we get older, we are called to greater depth, integrity and honesty. When you look within, what is really important? Is your demeanor aligned with your core values?

* Lighten up. Is there a chance you can walk away from this year's family gathering and say, "Wow! That was so much fun!"? Think about what would need to happen for you to have those feelings. What steps can you take to make this a possibility? Imagine the even greater possibilities if you share these thoughts with others. Embrace the goal of making this holiday season even just a bit more enjoyable than you had anticipated.

Dr. Susan E. Allen is a life coach and licensed psychologist in Newburyport who specializes in the second half of life. To learn more, visit http://www.secondhalfcoaching.com.

Look before you leap

This Mars Retrograde with companion Jupiter continues to make things more complex and difficult than they should be - or are. Jupiter magnifies everything. This is a time when we really need to have PERSPECTIVE on what's going on and the cards know.

Special message for Leos -- set your pride aside for now and do what you need to do, calmly and with the magnanimous spirit for which you are known. It isn't you -- it's them -- but you are the one to keep the situation from escalating. Manage your own sense of discouragement now about all those 'cubs' who should be listening to you and aren't. You're very busy, king of the jungle, and they aren't listening. Oh my!

This will change in a couple of weeks. Right now do what you do best - love the world in your heart, do some personal grooming, and sleep a lot!!

The Deadliest Sign of All - Aquarian Male

ATTENTION - if you are a woman dating an Aquarian male, I have an important message for you. And just to let you know I know what you're going through (especially with this Mars Retrograde)

from today's mailbag:

A Michigan woman and her family were vacationing in a small new England town where Paul Newman and his family often visited. One Sunday morning, the woman got up early to take a long walk. After a brisk five-mile hike, she decided to treat herself to a double-dip chocolate ice cream cone. She hopped in the car, drove to the center of the village and went straight to the combination bakery/ice cream parlor.There was only one other patron in the store. Paul Newman, sitting at the counter having a doughnut and coffee. The woman's heart skipped a beat as her eyes made contact with those famous baby-blue eyes. The actor nodded graciously and the star struck w oman smiled demurely.Pull yourself together! She chides herself. You're a happily married woman with three children, you're forty-five years old, not a teenager! The clerk filled her order and she took the double-dip chocolate ice cream cone in one hand and her change in the other. Then she went out the door, avoiding even a glance in Paul Newman's direction.When she reached her car, she realized that she had a handful of change but her other hand was empty. Where's my ice cream cone? Did I leave it in the store? Back into the shop she went, expecting to see the cone still in the clerk's hand or in a holder on the counter or something. No ice cream cone was in sight. With that, she happened to look over at Paul Newman. His face broke into his familiar warm friendly grin and he said to the woman,

'You put it in your purse.'

If you're facing those Aquarian eyes and feel like you're about to put your ice cream cone in your purse (AGAIN!!) - let me help you. Fast!! No kidding.

And this applies to everyone.

Hate to be the one to tell you (I know you know this already) but this "holiday season" combined with Mars Retrograde, and the Jupiter thing ... not a chance. It's an astral tumult, and it applies to everyone. Let me help you navigate the astral storm. Email for a reading.

Mars Retrograde and the Stock Market

Calm down, take a break, take is easy

Typically, when there are combinations of Mars, Jupiter and Uranus, we get panic and hysteria and then make impulsive actions that don't play well in the long run.

At least when we aren't aware of what's going on astrologically. Mars is about taking action, but in impulsive ways, and during a Retrograde, our timing can be way off. We suddenly decide to "get this settled once and for all," like end relationships, pop the question, get in or out of the market. When the irrational Uranus moves in around Mars, look out.

Mars Retrograde will continue until January 30, 2008.

Expect turbulence on all fronts - highs and lows. Jupiter will amp this all up. If you get irrational, you'll pop the question when you don't mean it, lose your temper and lose a good romance, or buy high and sell low. It's the crazy urge to DO SOMETHING. Act, and act now. This is not always advisable, and certainly not for a long-term investment philosophy - or anything else in your life!

Jupiter's presence tends to exaggerate everything and give a false sense of urgency.

So hang on for the ride on this one, taking careful consideration about what you do. There's a big urge to act, do something, worse of all -- do ANYTHING. In many cases, the best policy is to wait and see. What we're seeing now in the markets is likely to pass (as it has before, and will again). Avoid mass hysteria, and pay attention to what's going on in your for the long haul.

It's good policy to hold the center when there is panic and hysteria abounding.

And then we have the holidays.

Take it easy, and reassure yourself with a reading. It can stop the madness.

Identity Theft, Astrological Sign

As a public service, I would like to identify people who are at risk for having their identity stolen. I need to study the charts of people this has already happened to. It would be nice to have the date it happened and/or was first discovered. If you’ve had your identity stolen, and would like to help keep this from happening to others, or to learn how to work with this propensity in your chart, please participate in my study by emailing me at semiramis.appiamo@hotmail.com .

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"Gratitude goes beyond the 'mine' and 'thine' and claims the truth that all of life is a pure gift. In the past I always thought of gratitude as a spontaneous response to the awareness of gifts received, but now I realize that gratitude can also be lived as a discipline. The discipline of gratitude is the explicit effort to acknowledge that all I am and have is given to me as a gift of love, a gift to be celebrated with joy." - Henri J. Nouwen

Thanksgiving - you reap what you sow

All through our lives, we reap what we sow.

This is a great Thanksgiving poem that reminds us that if we want a good harvest, we have to work earlier in the year.

Let me help you plan your new year. Email me for your NEW YEAR'S reading!! Check out New Year's blessings kits on my website, www.webstrategies.cc/PsychicSemiramis.htm .

From my house to yours,
a very blessed and happy Thanksgiving

THE CORN SONG,
from John Greenleaf Whittier

Heap high the farmer's wintry hoard!
Heap high the golden corn!
No richer gift has Autumn poured
From out her lavish horn!

Let other lands, exulting, glean
The apple from the pine,
The orange from its glossy green,
The cluster from the vine;

We better love the hardy gift
Our rugged vales bestow,
To cheer us when the storm shall drift
Our harvest-fields with snow.

Through vales of grass and meads of flowers
Our plows their furrows made,
While on the hills the sun and showers
Of changeful April played.

We dropped the seed o'er hill and plain,
Beneath the sun of May,
And frightened from our sprouting grain
The robber crows away.

All through the long, bright days of June
Its leaves grew green andfair,
And waved in hot midsummer's noon
Its soft and yellow hair.

And now, with Autumn's moonlit eves,
Its harvest-time has come;
We pluck away the frosted leaves,
And bear the treasure home.

Then shame on all the proud and vain
Whose folly laughs to scorn
The blessing of our hardy grain,
Our wealth of golden corn!

Let earth withhold her goodly root,
Let mildew blight the rye,
Give to the worm the orchard's fruit,
The wheat-field to the fly;

But let the good old crop adorn
The hills our fathers trod;
Still let us, for his golden corn,
Send up our thanks to God!